How to manage that mouth AND have fun!

This is good stuff, so lean in close, and you might want to bookmark this one for future reference.
I feel really brilliant today.
I might just have a parade in my honor…no kidding.
I had an idea…
and I tried it today…
and it worked!!!
Amidst kind of a shitty day otherwise even…well, you know – me and my silver lining love to laugh nature try to make the best of everything but still…rough day and STILL my idea worked!
It is MC.
You remember, the greatest and most tenacious teacher I will ever have??
Well, he’s pretty tough when you (or me) and he don’t quite see eye to eye.
He and I have been giving one another the blues lately.
I was rather tired of it.
It just so happened that some of the teachers I work with were feeling rather blue too.
So, I directed them to http://www.wholebrainteaching.com.
I told them plain and simple when the work is hard, you simply HAVE to make some fun…HAVE TO.
My teaching hat is often put away at home (not really, but I am not overtly in action)
Only, for some reason this one little idea from the great website mentioned above stuck with me right when I needed it most.
MC is very…VERY competitive.
There is this strategy for class cooperation where there is this scoreboard for the classroom.
When things are going well (and of course you do a lot of positive reinforcement) the class gets a point.
When there is a problem, the teacher gets a point.
Last night when I was totally over it I started rambling to MC in the midst of his Sassy McSasspants routine…
I said, “that’s it. I’m gonna start keepin score mister. Sassy mouth, tally mark. Nice mouth, tally mark.”
I was spewing nonsense, only somewhere in the midst of it my brain clicked in gear and I remembered the game.
Dare I hope it might work for mamas too???
So I shifted and told him we would play a game and just see who might win.
I told him he better get a good night’s sleep because I LOVE to win (I could care less about winning, but he had to feel a competitor or it might not work!)
This morning of course I forgot at first (before coffee), but about the first time he started in I remembered!
I just said, “DUDE – that’s a point for mama!!!”.
He was worried that I was remembering and not writing it down(he is smart).
He got the paper and told me to set it up.
The cool thing was that he didn’t argue about the point, or the redirection for that matter, he smiled and laughed and so did I.
I knew I was on to something.
He got a point everytime he did just what he was asked and talked in a nice way.
I got a point for everything that WASN’T that.
He showed me the power of our back and forth when he did something and I got really exasperated and said his name in an exasperated way.
He just looked at me and smiled and said, “I think I just got a point!”
Now we had’t talked about HIM getting points if I was grouchy, but he had me, so I said ok with a frowny face because he loved it all the more!
Ladies and Gentlemen, I don’t know the score, but I do know that bedtime was more responsive than EVER, AND I do know that he had a really great day and so did I.
He didn’t even ask what happens when you win.
He’s pretty smart.
He probably already figured out we won…laughing and tally marking our way through a kind of rough Sunday.
(ps if you are going to try this…it will only work if you play this game with love in your heart and a smile on your face)

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About attraversiamodarmaz

Midwestern girl who loves big city shopping (note - do not love high heels of any kind) * hate to say that first because I fancy myself a yoga chic too who is into feng shui and a minimalist life but it's just not all true!* I do forget to recycle* LOVE reading and music and most things crafty (the idea of them - very fickle and creative urges come and go faster than light or sound)* Grand chef and baker in my own mind and kitchen - love to mix and match recipes for a glorious new concoction* Gardening would be very successful - I have a flair but short attention span can cause casualties* True bliss is my home filled with three beautiful children (four on the weekends - an amazing Goddaughter)* did forget to feed the beautiful children lunch once when they were too small to remind me* can't find socks for all on some crazy mornings* I'm a learner who just can't help it...a writer in my head, and a college instructor for a half dozen classes a year* can't help my right brain optimism* been a foster mom* am a very grateful mom of adopted children* worst life moment: leaving the E.R. with an empty baby carrier* this is me...pretty much
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